«How to build relationships» by Pavel Verbnyak
Build relationships with people. Focus on helping others to achieve their goals. Care more about unselfish service rather than remuneration. You came into this world to make it richer; forgetting this truth, you betray yourself.
Every person can teach you something: it can be an interesting story, a good joke or a life lesson. Ralph Waldo Emerson said: «In my walks, every man I meet is my superior in some way, and in that I learn from him.»
Follow this example and you will learn a lot.
No one can hurt or insult you without your permission. One of the keys to happiness is the correct interpretation of the events happening in front of you. People, who have achieved great success, are professionals in some sphere. People, who have achieved greatness, have developed the ability to interpret negative events as a positive challenge, which helps them to grow and move forward. There is no negative experience, there is only one that promotes and strengthens your character, so that you can discover new heights. There are no failures, only lessons.
Remember the names of people around you and be good to everyone. This is one of the most important secrets of success. Everyone in this world wants to feel important and to be valued. The sound of own name caresses the ear of every person. Dale Carnegie said that we should know how to get to the position of another person and understand, what he needs, not we.
Napoleon III had a special ability to remember the names of all those he met. His secret was that, when they met, he always said: «Sorry, I forgot your name.» Thus, it was repeated many times and stayed in his memory. And if the name was difficult, he asked how to spell it.
Remember that the ability to forgive is a virtue that is given to a few, but it is very important to maintain peace of mind. Mark Twain compared forgiveness to fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it. Practice this skill in particularly difficult situations. If you learn to forgive emotionally, petty grievances and comments will not touch you, and nothing will disturb your peace of mind.
More advice from Dale Carnegie:
- never try to revenge against your enemies, because it will do more harm to you than to them;
- remember that your partner may be completely wrong. But he does not think so. Do not condemn him.